I began to question people, be wary of people, not trust everyone. I observed people and refrained from getting involved, until I felt comfortable and at times, that meant, not at all. I built up a wall, so that those people could not take my honesty, openness and transparency and use it for bad. I learnt who I could open up to and who I couldn’t. Occasionally I’d be fooled; let my guard down to be hurt again. I vowed never to do it again and then did, because it was part of me, was part of who I wanted to be, so I couldn’t deny it. I scalded myself for being too trusting…
Only by going through those experiences did I begin to realise, it wasn’t me who was wrong to be open, to be honest, to be myself. It was them for being cruel, uncaring, selfish and devious. Those things were fine to be, that were instilled in me as values. They were good traits to have and I shouldn’t dumb that down for anyone, but be selective about the company I chose, so that I didn’t need to build those walls to protect myself in the future….
From then on I made an extra effort to be open and honest about who I was and didn’t suppress it for anyone. I’d hold my hands up if I’d made a mistake, I’d challenge other peoples’ dishonesty or deception and my circle of friends became about quality and not quantity. When I teach or train, I’m honest about my knowledge and if I’m not sure or don’t know the answer to a question, I’ll say that I don’t and don’t try and fumble my way through it with a fake response.
My enthusiasm shines through because I don’t have to pretend that I am passionate about what I am delivering. It is what I am. My honesty promotes trust and an environment where people feel they are valued and can ask those questions they first thought were silly. I am allowed to work in a completely transparent way and all clients experience the same service as a result. There then is no confusion and everyone works to the same standard; everyone knows where they stand…
My Instagram has very much become a page about being open and honest about the journey that I am on, to reach self belief and daring myself to go for my dreams. Not acting as an expert, but as a learner of experiences and sharing how those experiences have shaped me and what I have taken from them.
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32 thoughts to “What Basic Attributes, Could Help You Achieve Your Dreams?| Journey Towards Positivity & Self Belief”
This is such a fantastic thing to strive for. You can be truly happy with yourself when you can be yourself no matter what.
Hi! Yes, not always easy to do, but something I am striving for. Thank you for your feedback!
I think honesty is a very important trait we should exercise at all times.
I believe that most people are good inside and they want to be honest. They lie and deceive because that’s what life thought them to do. Experiences growing up in bad environments only bring mistrust and closed walls around people.
Yes, life does do this, but I suppose it is up to us to not allow life to harden us, otherwise we will never be able to enjoy it in it’s entirety. x
I love this read! It was not at all what I thought it was going to be. I love how you included openness. So important
Thank you for your fab feedback!
I’m glad that you’re embracing the values you were raised with and are being the kind of person you want to be. I hope you are successful in reaching your goals!
Great read there
Believing in ourselves and remaining positive is the key to overcome any challenges that life throws at us. Thanks for sharing this beautiful post.
Thank you soo much for your comment. Much appreciated!
It can be hard to be open and transparent, especially in communal spaces like the workplace. That is why I find a group of people, either online or offline, that share the same values as me and that is whom I confide in.
Completely agree! And you have done exactly what I suggest in my other blog https://serentherapies.com/blog/how-to-utilise-what-you-have-to-get-what-you-want-journey-towards-positvity-self-belief/ about surrounding yourself with positive people. If you can’t find positivity in your immediate circle, go find it!
I love the idea of being open and honest and I value it in my friends. I value it even more in someone who knows when to be open and honest, as I don’t think it is the best all day, every day.
Absolutely! It’s not about putting everything about you on show, I suppose you can look at it from the point of view of the services you offer as well. Not everyone deserves your deepest desires, fears etc…
Great post. Such interesting points about following your dream. Never thought about transparency.
Thank you 🙂 In my industry transparency and honesty is absolutely key, therefore it has shaped my own values, so I place it high in my own life.
This post is so relevant. I still struggle to open up and let people close to me. But it shouldn’t necessary be a bad thing.
Great post, thank you ???
Definitely not a “bad thing” just something to consider on your own journey when ready 🙂 Thank you for reading and leaving me a comment.
It’s so important to be open with yourself. I have definitely learned to be honest and open with not only others but with myself as well, it helps with the growing process for sure.
It is! If you can’t be honest with yourself, it makes for a much trickier life I think.
Beautifully compiled.. Completely agree that honesty is a very important attribute.
I appreciate your feedback! Thanks for reading!
I completely agree with you. Honesty and transparency are the attitudes that help you in long run and make you a trustworthy person.
Thank you! I feel it makes for a great attribute when self employed or setting up a business! Customers highly rate these traits!
I think this is so important!
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